The Singing Bees' life at the Farm

Wednesday, March 15, 2023

March 15, 2023: MTC, Hyrum leaving, Track, Room switcheroo, Update on everyone

 Hyrum moved downstairs after the Shetkas’ visit ended, so he could have a little more calm and quiet for doing missionary study.   We took advantage of the change to move rooms around.  At first, the only solid move was to have Eli move up into the bunk room with Xai. I have honestly LOVED having them up their together.  One of the first nights, I could hear the boys happily chatting in their new room.  We moved a bunch of furniture out, moved in a new bookshelf and Xai happily gathered his favorite books from around the house and organized them on the shelves.  He also went through and organized all the clothes in his drawers.  It is a simple set-up and really seems to fit them.

One of the fun adjustments that occurred without my planning was that Liesl came striding across the room, announcing that she was going to be sleeping up in Maia’s room. Liesl's bravery has really been remarkable.  That doesn’t mean there haven’t been some hard nights.  Having Hyrum leave has been really hard on her, so last night was pretty brutal. Both she and I were raw and needing (her-me, me-space) so it wasn’t the prettiest night, but we both survived.   Hopefully I will be able to fill my cup better earlier in the day so I can give a little more at times like that. 

We actually got some snow!  While the nation around us is getting plastered with extreme moisture and low temps, we are enjoying a very balmy winter.  Who knows?  March isn’t over yet.  It has come in like a lamb and a couple of years ago it sure enjoyed a lion-like middle with two weeks of blustery blizzards keeping us trapped at home.  There was enough for the younger ones to enjoy some snow and syrup, a tradition started by Tova.

The other night was excited with the kids driving back and forth with Xai navigating for Piper.  Apparently at one point he turned off the GPS guidance and they ended up wandering.  At one point, Piper asked if someone had responded to a text.  Xai said, “Nope! I haven’t heard any farts!” I have kept my “gas-passing” notification setting because it really does grab my attention. I just try to make sure it is off in places like church, the temple and other more sensitive gatherings. 

Piper has really enjoyed driving more. I may have mentioned it, how she miraculously passed just days before Hyrum started his online MTC.  She has been such a blessing, running people hither and yon to track, music lessons or just to a fun gallavant in town, like last weekend when she took all the kiddos rock climbing.

Speaking of track, Havala, Piper and Maia are all participating this season and that meant that Havala and Maia had to get new physicals.  We are blessed to have a clinic at the school that takes care of them for free.  When we went to the office, Maia went back first and apologized profusely to the nurse for not being able to read the bottom line of the vision chart.  Overachiever ;).  Havala will be doing the discus and shotput, Piper is running the 800, the 4x8 and the mile, maybe and Maia is going the 400, the 100, and the 100 hurdles.  I am happy for them!  We have arranged our Lightside Performing Arts groups so that they are over by 2:30 so the kids can participate more easily.  Win-win for everyone!.

Last Wednesday, Hyrum decided to go out with a bang in family basketball and helped Quinn hyper-extend his leg his last Wednesday with us at the FVRC.  That meant that Quinn was out of commission for the next several days from organized sports.  We have group volleyball and basketball every Friday night at the church so that meant I was going to do it without Quinn.  Pulling up my big girl pants, I drove over with the older girls to volleyball to find a room packed full of youth…Lance Ausserresses had been heavily recruiting, in addition to Greta Meyer bringing a friend. It was eight on eight, a challenging number, as anyone who has played volleyball knows. 

It was fun, though, and when it was almost time for basketball to start, a few more youth walked in.  Whew,  I thought. I hope another adult shows up soon!  Well, technically, some of the youth were barely eighteen but as they were new to the building, I didn’t want them to be the responsible ones.  We divided up–Havala and I were picked on the same team by Danny, a guy who knows his Biesingers–and had four teams. I was lucky to play on the first team that played and it was super fun!  Most of Lance’s friends hadn’t played basketball very much, so I didn’t feel out of place.  Brother Balli showed up partway through the first game and I sighed with relief that I could ditch the b-ball game and go have my girl party that I had planned with my younger three girls and a friend who lived nearby.   But then, when the game was over, Brother Balli was nowhere to be seen!  What??  Apparently he didn’t want to take a spot from one of the youth but what was I going to do?  Fortunately, the elders showed up shortly thereafter and I said a fond farewell to the gang. It is super cool having all those youth at our church playing sports.  The teams are friendly and fun.  It was just a kind of strange thing to be the only adult!.

Recently, Kel and Reka made a deal: if he dropped the Christmas tree off the balcony, she would go poop in a whole.  Kel thinks the deal is still on; Reka says it was a one day deal…now in the past. Those two are adorable!

Ben and Tova made our day!  Ben sent us a whole case of Milka bars and Tova sent some math stamps for the kiddos.  They know us well ;).  We are looking forward to visiting them soon. We were going to go down this week, but it was going to be super cold and we are camping so we are going next week, throwing all sorts of problems into the schedule for Piper and Havala and their track schedule. 

Quinn just summoned everyone in for a quick “leftover” feast. (Until I size my portions down, we will be doing similar feasts every 2-3 days.)  The girls had to be to youth group 30 minutes early, as did Quinn for a Bishopric meeting, so we rushed things along a little quickly, not bothering to round up the two boys for our song and prayer.  

When we asked–about halfway through the “meal”--if anyone knew where the boys were, Liesl knowledgeably informed us that the boys were probably in the “all the games we like to play” hole.  It is an oddly specific game.  She has corrected and clarified the name of it several times for me so I could record it accurately here.  Maia explained that in this “new dimension” they are able to pretend to be all sorts of characters from their favorite shows and movies.  Love it!

Hyrum traveled yesterday to the MTC, after a weekend full of missionary stuff and some last minute yummy meals and hugs. We are sure going to miss him!  My momma heart is a little heavy, I must admit, with so many of my darlings so far away. I know that eventually they will all probably spread out, but so many so fast?  I found out that other people could take the missionaries to the MTC once they fly into Utah, so he was able to meet up with some of his Utah Buchanan family that lived in the Salt Lake valley: Nathan picked him up, Mark joined the two of them for dinner and Aaron and Niesha let him sleep over there and then took him to the MTC the next day.  Niesha said she gave him a momma hug, sweet woman. I guess I had mine on Monday. Hyrum and I went on a walk with the dogs together, jogged a bit, chatted a bit and I got a really great hug.  I am going to miss that guy. 





Liesl got her "hug, hug, kiss, kiss..."




Lily has been enjoying her district and has done a lot of patient loving to her companions. It is fun to see her having so many great interactions with peers, especially during p-day. It is also cool to see the Australians take to her loving spirit so much.  She took a cool video last week of some pretty quick jumping spiders, too.  The Australian wildlife has been fun for her!
Drew–on literally the other side of the planet–spent part of his last p-day making snow angels wearing his t-shirt!!  Crazy.  He loves the cold and his new companion is pretty fab.  I am happy that he is getting at least one meal a week from two of the four regular members of their branch. (They’re married, and have the meal over “branch presidency meeting” each week.)  I am happy for him. He is having some cool experiences in this area with people that are ready to hear more about their Savior Jesus Christ.  

We had a cool miracle this last week.  Quinn has been crazy busy lately with everything and hasn’t had time to do all his balancing, paying of tithing and paying our missionary payments with finances.  He sat down to do that on Monday and got six orders that day!  Orders have been more and more scarce, so that was distinctly a tender mercy.

I did a YouTube video on my take on the commandment, “be ye perfect.” I have a friend who wanted me to do it, and it was fun!  Now I am going to go and work on my children’s books. I discontinued working with my therapist. I feel that she has given me a lot of tools to help find clarity and emotional stability. I still have a long way to go before I am healed and healthy, but I feel perfect, now.  A blend of imperfection, grace and trying again and again…trying to learn what I can along the way.  Right now, I am kind of sad, cranky and maxed out. So I am feasting on carbs and trying to take a breath before making a choice

March 7, 2023: Goals, Hyrum MTC, Piper's Driver's license, Picture download dump

 I just went running on this beautiful morning. I guess that showing up is working because I was able to run for longer without feeling like I was exhausted or pushing myself the entire time! I think that it might be fun to maybe plan on running a mini/print triathlon with Quinn?

Quinn and I are trying to make more intentional time together. Last night was nice.  We got the kiddos to bed and were able to watch an episode of something together.  Elijah and Xai are in the upstairs bunk room where Hyrum was previously.  Big girl Liesl is upstairs in the magic fairy room with Maia.  That puts the older two girls downstairs in Lily’s old room.  It all feels nice.

Hyrum is up and running with his online MTC.  He felt that the Spirit prompted him to basically just spend time doing missionary work and I respect that.  He is ready.  I can see him growing already.

I love having Penelope next to my bed. I love having her grab my arm and pull it over her. I love having her snuggle her head into mine and then be okay when she moves over to enjoy her own space in her own bed.


Quote from a book I am reading:

“She imagined, now, what it would be like to accept herself completely. Every mistake she had ever made. Every mark on her body. Every dream she hadn’t reached or pain she had felt. Every lust or longing she had suppressed. She imagined accepting it all. The way she accepted nature. The way she accepted a glacier or a puffin or the breach of a whale. She imagined seeing herself as just another brilliant freak of nature. Just another sentient animal, trying their best. And in doing so, she imagined what it was like to be free.”


We've had a lot of fun doing fancy hairstyles lately, motivated by Tova




Picture perfect Penelope
Library bike ride


Picture of our acting group


Piper got her driver's license!!!

Silliness with Penelope and more hairstyles!





Someone loves me!  They gave me measuring cups!!
The woman who inspired all the hair creations...Tova!


Journal Funnies and Burying the Cow

 March  4, 2023

Maia just said, “You have good handwriting, Dad!”  I’m documenting that here in our journal.  It happened.


We had a crazy wind storm last night and a huge tree crashed down across part of our driveway, not only blocking our way out but also bringing down several power cables/lines.  We miraculously still had power–even though the wood from the trees by the power lines were smoking–and feel it is so that Hyrum could have his at-home MTC experience today.  They did have to turn off the power when they fixed it all, but it was a much shorter time without power than it could have been!


Speaking of Hyrum and MTC, apparently both his companions (he’s in a threesome) are about 6 foot 4 inches…fun!!  Hyrum is the midget!  Good thing he has all the confidence he does!


Penelope stacked up some cups left on the table tonight. Piper, who was on cleaning up the table, asked if I had stacked them up.  “Nope, Penelope did,” I told her.  When Piper put them in the dishwasher, Penelope, who had her head bent intently over the notebook and pen she was doodling with, said, “Dank oo!” without pausing in her drawing.


Later, Quinn started turning off all the lights around the house and turned off the light in the dining room where she was working on her paper.  Penelope said, “Dank oo!” and then moved over to the living room where there was more light for her to “work.”  She is making a bunch of similarly shaped letter and symbols on her paper in little designs on her paper.  Such a cutie!


Last night Hyrum had some time off because he puked. (Havala and Maia had also joined the puking club yesterday.)  We wanted to watch something but wanted to be considerate of mission rules, so we picked out “Joseph Smith: Prophet of the Restoration.”  I didn’t think about the drama and sadness that the movie had and so after it was done, we had some damage control to take care of with Elijah, my sensitive hearted one.  He was super distraught.  I started to pray with him and then (I was inspired to, I think) I asked Hyrum to give him a blessing of comfort. It was one of–if not–the first blessing(s) that he has given and it was sweet, intimate and powerful to see him seek inspiration on behalf of his brother in his need.  Hyrum will indeed continue to be a blessing to everyone around him.


Piper just said someone asked her if Hyrum is 6’7”. Maia immediately replied, “Have they met Hyrum?” Hava then revealed that she was the one who had asked the question. Apparently Havala has not seen Hyrum.

Finishing up the burial of our cow, Mirabel...the turkey vultures were starting to get interested.



I have such great, hard workers in the fam!





March 3, 2023 letter to missionaries

 Olah, mi missionario compadres!

That, my young friends, is my not even pretended Spanish greeting...just messin' with y'all!


Hello, and welcome Elder Wilson and Elder Meyer to some of the ongoing random messages from Sister Mary Biesinger (aka Mom to three of your compadres).  I mix a healthy portion of family anecdotes with random thoughts and musings, so feel free to peruse or disregard at will. But, please all of you know that you have a home crowd in Athens who cheers for you and prays for you!


Onto this week's email...

The Biesingers are enjoying Hyrum during his first online week as a Danish missionary, headed to Provo on March 13 (thereabouts).  Piper just got her driver's license days before he started, so we--as parents--are thrilled to have an extra driver still.  Havala, Piper, Maia, Xai and Eli are all involved in our current acting gig, Robin Hood, a humorous adaptation from Howard Pyle's original novel.  We've spiced it up with some Renaissance dances and epic fighting scenes and moves...one of which required my 47 year old mom body to roll around the floor to demonstrate, which was truly laughable, but conveyed what it needed to. (I watch a lot of action movies.)


They are also singing in our choir, learning sign-language and dancing to go with that, rounding out our usual performances with pizzazz. I tirelessly (and shamelessly) canvas and steal dance moves from YouTube videos and Disney's Broadway version of "Newsies," making an overall memorable presentation and stretching my skills.


Outside of that, we are still recovering from the trauma of our mother cow die of some strange, unknown disease and trying to keep all of our other largely unwanted animal population alive. (We've tried to find homes for our hound dog and bunnies to no avail.)  Ironically, we work tirelessly to keep our chickens and guineas alive but keep losing them.  Ahhh, the joys of inept country farm living...


We have recently enjoyed:

-a visit from our Shetka cousins who have been traveling around the country

-an 8 week dance class taught by Hyrum to the community with participation from senior couples, homeschoolers and church family alike, culminating in a rip-roaring dance fest including line dances and food.  So fun!

-taking our five wiggle cars to various skate parks and zooming with abandon up and down slopes

-playing pick-up games of volleyball/basketball on Fridays and football on Saturdays with a mix-up of members, football friends, Christian homeschool compadres family...you know us Biesingers!  We love our sports. (But we're not having any fun, Lily.)

-days that soar from the 70's one day and plunge down below freezing, all the while feeling some snow envy looking at the rest of the country

-(speaking of good weather) a trip to Strouds Run Reservoir on March 1st, a month which definitely came in like a lamb! The kids were thrilled to be in the water already. (I'm still holding out for a crazy March two-week blast of snowstorms like last year or the year before!)

-yummy food and stomach flu in good measure (unfortunately not enjoyed at the same time)

-two baptisms of new friends in the ward with more on the horizon!  We love our missionaries and our friends!


Well, that is definitely a long enough update about us!  Below are random thoughts/conversations that lean to the spiritual that I thought I would share if you have time or interest.


God bless you all.

Beauty from ashes,

Mom/Sister Mary


Making monkey bread

February 11, 2023





Piper went on her first school date dance with Lance tonight. Hyrum went to a “hoedown” with Holly Meyer.  Havala and Maia enjoyed having Olivia and Ian Myles over to play. Dad DID Piper’s hair…kudos to him!!  He is amazing at holding down the fort. I couldn’t have asked for a better match.  I really appreciate him–his humor, resilience, perspective, faith and hope.  He is a good man, even if we drive each other crazy sometimes, lol.

*****
I need to record this, I feel. Tova and Ben lost their first little one at 12 weeks in her womb. It was super sad and hard. They had seen the little one alive and well several times through sonograms. I was able to fly out to be with them. I am sad for the lost little one, sad for Tova, for Ben. It's just a hard thing.




Authors in the Attic

 One of our many awesome Authors in the Attic submissions last week, enjoyed over a steamingly amazing huge pot of tapioca pudding….yummmmmmmm.

Sonnet to Sweet Pea

-by Miss Tulip


A star of giggles attracting hugs and kisses, 

Streaks across the big Biesinger sky.

Its rays of joy strike with no misses.

Regarding defense, there’s no use to try.

Hurtling in with no right warning,

It tangles with an already starry scene.

Keeping us up till two in the morning,

The blazing brilliance is clamoring to be seen.

A heaven-sent figure, garbed in captivating cute.

Another fiery flavor in our constellation of chromosomes.

Another new melody for our punk flutes to toot.

Another figurine to add to our garden of gnomes.

Unto us, of all the families on earth and sea,

Was born an angel with the alias of Sweet Pea.

Eli had a GREAT story that Daddy transcribed for him which I totally need to get into digital format to preserve.  He was really intent on getting someone to write it down. I totally blew it off, thinking that what I had gotten from him was enough. I do that so much!  Feel like I know best when I really need to just let my kiddos lead out and stop trying to coerce them through bribes to do what I feel they should be doing. Anyway, back to Authors in the Attic, Piper and Elijah definitely put the most time into their writing.  Dad’s was actually pretty serious and sweet.  He said he had writer’s block and that’s why, lol.  But the rest of us all had fun!


February 6 & 8, 2023

 I had a great talk with Drew today. I also used some old fabric paint to basically destroy some aprons for the kiddos–aprons that Auntie Loni Maughn had given us as extras from some event.  It also leaked through and got onto the center island countertop–and will hopefully all come off. It was particularly hard to get it off today because our water line was out. Amazing Quinn figured it out yesterday and took care of it. Thank goodness!  Poor Hyrum went to the hardware store to try and find parts, didn’t and so then poor Quinn had to go anyway!  Fortunately and miraculously, we have water now, though. 

Penelope went down for an early nap. We had devotional. We had reading time, learning about the DMZ and the 38th parallel in the Koreas.  The kiddos did a bunch of cool world maps that I found. I forced Eli to read and do math…not sure that forcing is ever the way but that kid insists that he is stupid and HE’S NOT. He just refuses to even try and it drives me CRAZY.  Sign.  I finally put on Moana because I am tired of Penelope’s whining and destruction; Liesl’s violence and yelling; Eli’s whining; and Xai’s over-reactions…and both of their meanness to each other and their little sisters.  True, they have lots of good things, but it gets old.  

The sun is shining, the water is running, and I have a few minutes to myself.  Well, kind of. Elijah is going to come in and do math with me.  Which can be fun.  Unless his is whiny.  He really is such a smart and cute kid. His belligerence is just driving me CRAZY. And I know that if I try to find a way that he would like learning, he would learn fast. I am just going to keep on charging through, though, so here we go. Poor chap. 


February 8, 2023

Xai just determined that the grape juice is very tart and very sweet.

Maia is downstairs drumming away on our newly borrowed drum set (she and Hyrum are taking lessons).

Piper is gathering laundry from around the house after diligently retrieving the blessedly empty garbage cans from the curb and feeding our still living Rasputin.  As Tova put it the other day, when we get to heaven, we are going to have a whole zoo-full of animals that died under our care waiting for us. Sad, but true.  

We had some delicious sandwiches for breakfast this morning: Tim Horton look-a-likes.  Croissant, egg, bacon and cheese…twelve sandwiches for the price of three sandwiches.  Crazy!  Xai and Maia helped me put them together and it was a lot of fun.

One of the kids is doing so much better with wetting bed less!  They help me take care of the laundry, too, and take a cooler shower every morning. We have tried the alarm system– which worked to a degree but was a lot of vested interest and we didn’t feel it was the right thing overall.  We are gravitating back to what we did with the oldest kids: natural consequences and effects.  The child is definitely not happy about it, but …what is new about parenting?

We are watching CNN 10 right now and having a lot of great discussion: state of the union address/counter address.  Love my thinking kiddos.